Something To Think About - September 2003

Something To Think About - September 2003

What are you really mad about?

Have you seen the movie “Seabiscuit”?? Of course, it was heart-warming to see people (and a horse) ~~ all apparently “broken” from each(s) previous life experiences ~~ come together with compassion, belief in one another, a 2nd chance, and ultimately success for all.

One scene seemed exceptionally “right on” for me . . . and . . . possibly for many of you.

“Red” (the young jockey) had just lost a race & was “defending” himself to the Trainer and to the horse/s Owner, saying . . . “He fouled me – He fouled me.” (speaking about another jockey who had pushed Red & his horse out of the race)

Rather than focus on winning the race, Red chose to stay “neck-&-neck” with the offending rider to elbow/push/fight back.

When he continued to “be the victim”, saying “He fouled me . . . He fouled me”, the Trainer simply responded with an unsympathetic “So!!”

Red (then) helplessly looked to the Owner, who compassionately & wisely said, “What are you REALLY mad about, son?”

At that moment, Red had flash-backs of past experiences where he felt “fouled” (i.e. promises from people he loved and trusted ~~ promises that were never fulfilled).

In the very moment you find yourself justifying/explaining/making-someone-understand why THEY should see YOUR side, ask yourself ~~ what is REALLY going on here??

What are you really mad about?

Listen to YOUR OWN words when you “complain” to a friend about a particular situation in your life ~~ (i.e. “. . . he fouled me”)

Recently, I was “complaining” to a friend about a couple of situations in my life where I felt “taken advantage of” . . . and . . . my friend “reflected” back to me how I sounded like a “victim” ~~ It was then I became VERY aware of the REAL reason I was angry:

“I” ALLOWED these situations.

I ALLOWED other people’s feelings to be MY responsibility.

We always teach & preach to others what we CHOOSE to learn for ourselves ~~

In a personal situation, I kept justifying why I didn’t have time ~~ even when my body was “loudly” telling me otherwise, “…..take time to play/rest.”

In a relationship situation, I keep making myself available ~~ even when I prefer to have “alone time”.

In a business-owner situation, I keep my mouth shut ~~ even when a particular patron continuously “tests” the latitude of my good will.

In a boss situation, I shut my eyes ~~ even when “little things” begin to create “big concerns”.

When you are choose to MASTER a particular area of growth, you see a THEME in all areas (personal, relationship, business) ~~

Of course, the reason I “allowed” the above experiences ~~ and, subsequently felt taken advantage of (victim), was that I felt if I communicated my truth, I would hurt people’s feelings and they would dislike me –- they would tell other people how ugly & mean I was — that I was a bad person . . . I would become unlovable . . . etc. etc. etc.

And . . . the longer I chose to ignore the theme running through my life, the STRONGER & LOUDER new circumstances presented ~~ I felt more & more taken-advantage-of . . . and . . . subsequently, more and more angry.

Very Powerful:

a) “feel-your-feelings” — rather than justify, manage, stuff-away;

b) “express-your-feelings” — even anger – perceivably the scariest to express;

c) AND . . . allow the other person to handle THEIR resulting feelings — their feelings are their feelings ~~ and ~~ it’s O.K.

Next time you find yourself complaining and recounting-reasons-why someone has “wronged” you, ask yourSELF

What am I REALLY feeling?

 

What is REALLY causing me to feel this way?

 

Who is REALLY responsible for this feeling?

(what are you really made about)

Be True To YourSELVES,

Suze

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WHERE: Suze Curtis Dynamic Power Yoga PLUS!
WHEN: Sunday, September 21, 2003
TIME: 1:00 - 3:30 p.m.
COST: $35
DEADLINE TO REGISTER: September 14
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~September Vinyasa PLUS! Schedule~

Vinyasa PLUS! is an energetic flow of breath & movement between each “working” yoga pose ~~ consisting of Standing Forward Bend, Push-Up, UpDog, and DownDog. All movements can be modified for all students ~~ beginner to seasoned practitioner

Monday, September 15 @ 5:30 p.m.

Wednesday, September 17 @ 9:00 a.m. & 7:15 p.m.

Saturday, September 20 @ 10:00 a.m.

Tuesday, September 23 @ 9:30 a.m. & 5:30 p.m.

Tuesday, September 30 @ 7:15 p.m.

~New!! “Themed” Techniques Class~
Led by Suze Curtis & Jennifer Metevier (Licensed Physical Therapist and Certified Yoga Teacher).

This Month’s Theme: Inversions
(Headstand, Shoulderstand, Dolphin, Plow, Down Dog, and much, much more…)

Date: Sunday, September 28, 2003
Time: 12:30 - 3:30 p.m.
Cost: $25 LIMIT 20 PEOPLE
Deadline to Register: September 25, 2003
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For more information

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